Endings and Beginnings

How are you tending to the emerging story of your life?

~Carol Hegedus and Frances Vaughan

As 2010 is now in my rearview mirror, it seems fitting to stop and ponder how my own life is faring. Just as the seasons come and go, so too movement and change are my reality. Whether I agree with it or not, change is inevitable. There are endings and beginnings, practically everyday in my world. People move in and out of my life – one is born and several die but all effect me one way or another. As I leave the old year behind, I question what the New Year will bring that I will mourn over or rejoice in.

As I herald each new year in, I wake up more and more to the important people and things in my life; love, above all, compassion and kindness, giving and forgiving, gratitude and hope. As my story continues to unfold, I consciously savor and relish each moment of every day.

First of all, I appreciate that I breathe fresh air and enjoy health when I know that elsewhere in the world, people do not. I am grateful daily for this experience.

Second, in acknowledging the simple things, such as watching each season come and go: snow in the winter or a butterfly or beautiful trees in the summer, I am fortunate and happy. Observing our little puppies at play brings me joy. Their unconditional love and attention are lessons to me about giving to others who can benefit from experiencing the same gifts.

Third, realizing that as I grow older, I can give up the need to be perfect. It’s ok to be me, with my imperfections and idiosyncrasies. Focusing on the small stuff blinds me to the big picture so that I lose sight of what I’m really after, such as fulfilling my dreams. It need not be an ‘all or nothing’ attitude but a ‘both and.’ There is so much abundance wherever I am and so many opportunities to help me on the way. In turn, I can help others.

Fourth, reflecting on the love, compassion and kindness that I experience is humbling and energizing. My world is a very safe and happy one. I feel grateful and fortunate for that world when I watch the TV news of doom and gloom. I feel compassion for the sufferings and pain of others. I want to surround them with love and kindness. But I also notice how people are helping people, giving hope and promise for a happier future. As this New Year begins, my dream and wish is that every human being experience love and peace daily.

In your experience, who are the people significant in your life? What qualities do you value in you and in them? Take some time out of your busy world, and reflect on what makes you happy and loving.

A Mini Meditation

Close your eyes and become aware of your breathing. Slow it down and notice where the tension lies in your body. Breathe into it and image it floating like a feather out of your body.

Next, consider two things that you love doing. Some examples are singing, dancing, gardening, golfing, reading or taking nature walks. Reflect on the quality in each one that gives you life.

Hold both in your hand and your heart. Continue to breathe quietly. Notice the feelings of peace, gratitude and love.

As you return to your place of activity, remind yourself periodically of these feelings.

~Adapted from: Mark Nepo’s The Book of Awakening, p.4~

As you can see, just taking a few minutes a day energizes as well as gives you a feeling of wellness and peace. When you can live this way and spread it to others, the world becomes a better, happier place. Be aware of the power of one- your power. The good you do follows after you. As my mother used to say, ‘goodness comes home to roost.’

How are you tending to the emerging story of your life?

If you are looking for ways to relieve the stress in your life and build a happy, fulfilling life, there are many ways to do that. Many books and media equipment are available.

One way I would suggest is to visit my website. There, I have a CD of Relaxation Techniques that accompanies my book, Quest for Happiness Handling Difficult Relationships Using the FTA Approach.

May 2011 bring you bounteous joy and success!

Please feel free to respond and tell me your story.

Happy New Year!

Fondly,

Bride